DEAN JORDAN

The secret to a blissful married life is not romance alone but the security and emotional intimacy that couples find in the sacred bond of marriage. Superficially, it would appear that the preceding statement encourages dating as the primary means of selecting a life partner. Dating, however, is not as efficient as people believe. It has a number of shortcomings which prevents people from knowing potential partners for who they truly are. People act their best and most winning in front of likely partners on dates and one can hardly glean enough information as to be able to make an accurate judgement about the Other’s true character. Therefore, when looking for a life partner, dating is not an efficient process for getting to know each other, because what you see is what the other persons wants you to see. The very fact that more than 50% of marriages in the west end in divorce is testament to how inefficient and misleading the process of dating is for finding a soulmate.

Besides, dating is superficial and transitory and often leads to unnecessary heartaches and psychological scars. Dating cannot help people find life partners because it is only based on attraction of the flesh and leaves out other aspects that help form a long term relationship.

Inspite of the numerous shortcomings of the dating process, most people find it intensely romantic and blinding in its drive and passion. Love, as they say, is blind and we often fail to see the reality obscured by the passion and romance of a first date with someone new. Sooner or later, after a few failed dates and heartaches, going on a date seems more like a chore than a pleasure. Setbacks in relationships of the heart can cause psychological damage and one might be subjected to such by just dating or getting romantically involved with the wrong person. And when so often dating leads to illicit relationships, doesn’t that then not overdraw one’s bank of morality?

Islam has the perfect solution to this problem, i.e. – spouse selection should not be the responsibility of the man or woman alone, but of their respective families as well. The interaction between the families and the prospective bride and groom enables them to evaluate each other and determine their mutual compatibility. The involvement of family members ensure that the prospective bride and groom are well matched. Moreover, as both the families are involved, the couple has a wide safety net constituted of family members who are always there for them.

Design Molvi aims to interpret and introduce traditional Islamic values of love and matrimony in the modern context, and for this, they have introduced various islamic gifts and conversation starters like the “I only do Edible Dates” Islamic t-shirts design. The “husband & wife: partners in faith” T-shirt is another design which beautifully compliments the aforementioned design and cleverly expresses the true significance of marriage. Design Molvi seeks to enliven the Qur’anic ayah that states that one’ spouse is a garment for oneself by creating a garment that proclaims that message! To see our range of islamic clothing, please visit www.DesignMolvi.com